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We all have goals and aspirations in life, but sometimes it’s hard to find the motivation to go out and get them. Even though many people know that they would be happier if they were working toward achieving their dreams in life, a lot of us just can’t find the push that we need to make that first step. There are so many different reasons for this and if you can identify just what it is that’s killing your motivation, you can do something about it. These are some of the most common reasons that people lack motivation.
Mental Health Problems
We’re only just starting to understand the true scale of mental health issues in society. There are so many people that are suffering from anxiety and depression. That might be the root cause of your lack of motivation, even if you don’t know it yet. When you’re suffering from anxiety, the thought of putting yourself out there and taking a risk is terrifying, so you just don’t do it. Equally, people that struggle with depression find it so difficult to get out and do things. They may not have the energy, or want to see anyone. Sometimes even the thought of having to put on a facade of “doing ok” can be exhausting.
If you think that you might be dealing with some of these issues, there may be some ways to deal with anxiety and depression. Some that you can even start right away at home so you can find your motivation again and live a happier and healthier life. However, it’s always best to speak with your doctor about potential medications and talking therapies that are available to you.
Therapy and Medication
I am a huge proponent of therapy as it helped me through a period of depression when I was younger and led me to medications that worked for me. Everyone’s mental health struggles and treatments are different. Don’t delay or avoid therapy based on what you think is going to happen. Here are some outcomes that are possible:
- You need therapy for the next 2 decades
- You need therapy for the next 2 months
- You need medication for the rest of your life
- You need medication for a year
- You need therapy and medication for the rest of your life
- You learn some coping strategies and are on your way.
Everyone’s mental health path is different. If you are feeling like you are suffering from anxiety or depression, please talk to someone who is trained to help.
Fear Of Failure
Fear of failure plagues so many people and it’s a huge motivation killer. The logic works like this; “if I try at this thing then I might fail. I’ll be embarrassed and I’ll have to accept that I haven’t met that goal. But if I just don’t try, the potential for success is still there. I can still dream about doing those things without having to admit that they won’t happen”. The thing is, that logic is terrible. If you don’t go for it you automatically fail, but if you do go for it you have a chance of success. It’s also important to remember that one failure doesn’t mean that you’ll never achieve your goals. You can always get up and start again. The only time you can truly call something a failure, is if you don’t get back up and try again.
Sometimes, people set vague goals that seem so out of reach they don’t even know where to start. That makes it really hard to get motivated. But if you get better at setting goals and come up with more specifics, it’s easier to get motivated. For example, if your goal is to become a graphic designer, you might not have a clue where to start. Instead, you should set yourself a smaller goal. “Tomorrow, I’m going to Google how to become a graphic designer and look at my options.” Then you can set yourself a goal of applying for a course to learn the skills that you need, and so on. By setting these smaller and more specific goals that are more manageable, you’ll be more likely to go for it.
Another problem many people have, and some don’t even realize, is mindset. If you don’t think you are good enough, smart enough, or anything else enough, it’s going to be very hard to put yourself out there and start working on a goal. It will also be more difficult to keep going if you hit a road block. Which is a complete motivation killer.
Mindset is a broad term for how you view yourself and the world. Much of our mindset is rooted in things we have experienced throughout our lives, so it can take a little bit of time to get into a better mindset. One that allows you embrace motivation and take big steps to reach your goals and achieve your aspirations. If you think mindset may be the source of your motivation concerns, check out these 10 Things to do to Change Your Mindset and Improve Your Life
Finding motivation is tough, but if you can avoid the traps that kill your motivation, you can do it.
If you have found the motivation to start but sometimes get down in the everyday tasks, check out: Four Ways to get Through a Motivation Slump